WOMEN’S EXPERIENCE OF LACK OF SEXUAL DESIRE IN RELATIONSHIPS, AND IMPLICATIONS FOR INTERVENTION

  • Elzabé Dürr Department of Social Work, Stellenbosch University, Stellenbosch, South Africa.

Abstract

Sexual desire disorders are both the most common and the most challenging of all the sexualproblems confronting practitioners. International statistics suggests that between 33% and 67%of women indicate low sexual interest (Brezsnyak & Whisman, 2004; Davies, Katz & Jackson,1999; Hicks, 2006; Pridal & LoPicollo, 2000). Little if any attention has been paid to thesubject of low sexual desire in women in South Africa, and the paucity of local research in thefield of sexual disorders (Robinson, 2005) means that there is a need for local perspectives onthe issue and for the development of local expertise in the realm of sexual health (Craig, 2002;Smit, 1997).

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2014-06-18
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Dürr, E. (2014). WOMEN’S EXPERIENCE OF LACK OF SEXUAL DESIRE IN RELATIONSHIPS, AND IMPLICATIONS FOR INTERVENTION. Social Work/Maatskaplike Werk, 45(3). https://doi.org/10.15270/45-3-203
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